Last February, I put together an art show to help Bangkok’s urban refugees. When I refer back to this period of my life, I think of fighting a war on three fronts. When I took on this project I was full time teaching, trying to pull off full time charity work, and attempting to be social enough to have people at the art show. I lost this war on all three fronts. While teaching for me went generally well, grading and writing piled up at a rate I could never recover from. The bigger the plans for the art show became, the more nights I spent in meetings or at the venue planning. And my social life was the biggest disaster. I alienated friends and new people trying to push an event on them without spending any quality time with them. Big mistake. I suffered personally and so did my cause. This is why I’m so passionate about asking you to pause and think about all you’re doing and how you’re committing yourself to your project.

Being splintered because of overcommitment had two detrimental consequences: 1)Overcommitment makes it difficult for people to help you and 2)Overcommitment is exhausting and leads to burn out. These consequences make the goals you’ve set harder to reach.

The show went well and we raised a significant amount of money for the cause. However, I did not reach the fund raising goal I originally set and I nearly killed myself trying to be superman. Afterward, I needed some serious time away from my projects. In hindsight, this was quite an unhealthy way to lead a project.

In the upcoming posts I will give some guidelines to prevent splintering in your endeavors running projects and using the web to spread your message. Thanks for reading and I hope you’re committing yourself to doing work you love in a realistic, sustainable way.

~Dwight

For me this week has gone exceptionally awry. For example, when things did go right (i.e. I was on time for a meeting), it was only to find out later that things were not as they seemed (i.e. the meeting was scheduled for the following day). Please don’t misconstrue my venting. As a matter of fact, you may be thinking my examples about missing meetings seem pretty minuscule in contrast to this week’s feature post, Welcome to Hell. I don’t mean to sound self-centered and ungrateful. However, I am curious about how we perceive failure. In particular, do you let quickly collecting small scale failures build up to some whale-sized monstrosity that drags us down (not as vivid without the twitter failwhale picture stuck in your head)?

Join the discussion by leaving a comment and checkout my #followfriday recommendations:

Great Discussion: Joined a webinar with Buy1Give1′s @pauldunn who is a co-founder and working to change the way we give.

Most helpful tweep: @michaelqtodd aka “The Green Guy” (He’s posting good stuff all over the web)

I’m fresh on the tracks of (the last five twppl I followed): @Viralogy @sweisbrot @isAMare @hmaust @ShawnRobinson

Gotta see (a link I caught this week that should be passed on): In a Senegalese Slum, a Building Material Both Primitive and Perilous (via @PatriciaDeWit). Really disturbing after just posting about the children in the dumps in Cambodia.

Not enough? Follow some people I’m looking forward to seeing at next weekend’s BKK Charity Tweetup: @codymckibb @underexpose @ruskie818 @simplyshimona @pradt @CallumLaing @nuttyknot @RobinThailand & more!

Have a good weekend and don’t be afraid to follow interesting people. ~@insearchofsanuk

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